A Lamenting Love

We’re in the month of love. The word love will stir up a lot of mixed emotions for many of us.

How do you define love?

For years I defined love as unsafe, conditional, destructive, uncertain and unsteady. From my experience growing up, it would have been hard to define love any other way.

Many of us need a new definition of love.

I had read, “Love is patient, love is kind…” in 1 Corinthians 13:4 and while it sounded nice, was it true? Was it attainable? Was it experiential?

Dr. Timothy Keller says, “To love anyone with a problem involves sacrifice.” Do you know that Jesus sacrificed for you? He gave up a lot for you. Even if you don’t know of His great sacrifice, He paid an ultimate price for you. Love costs someone something. Love requires sacrifice. Real loved lived out is beautiful, sacrificial and many times crushing.

If love has let you down, let’s enter into this next month asking God to help us form a new definition. In in the middle of the barrenness, after our divorce, in the midst of the betrayal…

Do we have the courage to redefine love?

The LORD is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love.”

Psalm 103:8

Abounding means much, many and great – God has great love for you! And much of it!!

Other Bible translations describe this love as unfailing love, steadfast love, faithful love, gracious love and loyal love.

Who doesn’t need some more of that?

Feeling unloved can feel crushing. Being unloved hurts, too. Yet – even when this world gives us a tainted view of love, God’s love for us is abounding still.


Reflection Questions:

  1. How do you define love?
  2. Do you think Jesus, while hanging on the cross, felt unloved by us?
  3. Do you think Jesus felt unloved by God?

For Further Study: What were some of Jesus’s laments as He experienced pain? (See Luke 22, Matthew 27)

Verses to turn to: Psalm 103, Psalm 145

Admonition: Jesus, in His distress, lamented. You can lament where love has hurt you, too.


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